Bringing Clarity Through Kindness
Stacy Lynskey, LCPC
Trauma Specialist


Domestic violence, including verbal and emotional abuse or manipulation; the use of bullying, intimidation and other fear tactics to control or dominate

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Recognizing emotional or verbal abuse

  • Do you feel demeaned or ridiculed when expressing your thoughts and feelings?
  • Must you “ask permission” before making even small decisions?
  • Is there name-calling or labeling?
  • Is it “your fault” that your partner is angry? If you would only use a different tone, words, voice, etc. then he/she wouldn’t be mad.
  • Does your partner make up stories or events in order to blame or accuse you?

Have you ever asked yourself,
“Am I crazy or what?”

Humiliation, degradation, domination, control, manipulation and shame are hallmarks of emotional abuse. Tactics include using unpredictable moods and anger to keep a person off-balance and/or accusing and blaming for things you had nothing to do with. This requires you to anticipate your partner’s moods and conform your behavior to keep peace.